Rants in Writing: An Emotional Mama & Teenagers!!

Rants in Writing: An Emotional Mama & Teenagers!!

So here I am tonight being an emotional mama just needing to vent, bare with me please as I showcase my mama meltdown…

Where is the instruction manual for preteens and teenagers? Why do our children have to grow up? Why can’t they just stay little ones forever and we only get the fun innocent version of them? When I say that I am sick and tired of the teenager/puberty bullshit, I swear I mean every freaking word! Life with teenagers is so overwhelming and emotional. Between trying to combat attitudes and the daily sarcasm that is thrown my way, somedays I just want to lose it and rip all my hair out! I can honestly say that I am not prepared in any way for the teenage shit storm that is currently taking place and will continue to take place over the next few years.

I miss the days of swaddling them and them being excited when they learn that they have hands. I miss them saying their first words and trying new food for the first time and spitting it out when they weren’t used to the taste. I miss them being excited to get a kiss from their mama at any given time but now just getting my teenage son to take a picture is like pulling teeth! It makes me so emotional sometimes. Hell! I am emotional as hell right now because all I want is for them to let me do the one thing that I adore most which is, be there mama and they be my babies. Yes, I am well aware that they aren’t babies anymore but damn all that because they will forever be my babies.

They grow up so fast and I’m just not prepared for them to not need me or want me to do everyday things that mama’s do. I just miss the days when I was literally their world. I am so thankful to have an 8 and 6yr old because they still love to be cuddled, kissed, and photographed. They have their moments as well but they haven’t outgrown me Lol. I know all of my babies love me and do still need me, I just need them to do me a favor and slow down. Society is already rushing them to grow up and here I am looking for the next animated classic for us to sit back, laugh, and reminisce about.

All I can do is continue to cherish every moment with them because time is flying and I’m a loving and frustrated mama just trying to keep up!

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Positivity Is Good But Keeping It Real Is Better

Positivity Is Good But Keeping It Real Is Better

Finding My Focus Through Life’s Chaos

So lately I’ve been shying away from writing on my blog because I don’t feel as though I am being true to myself or my writing. Don’t get me wrong the few post that I’ve published are all true but I feel as though besides showcasing my struggles with depression and anxiety, I’ve been trying to keep everything on my blog completely positive. And in the midst of the positivity I lose myself in the choas by not keeping it real with myself and everyone else.

I mean for goodness sake, I am a wife and working mother of 5! My house consists of 1 teenage son (soon to be 14 in a couple weeks), two preteen daughters (1 is almost 13 and 1 almost 12), and also 8 and 6yr old little girls as well! My husband and I have been together 15 years and married for 13. We are definitly each other’s best friend yet we can also be each other’s worst enemies (not really but we definitely drive each other crazy from time to time!) lol. Oh and I can’t forget our beautiful yet annoying fur baby Kaiden, he is a 2yr old golden retriever mix. So yeah, did I mention that my life is pretty much always hectic and full of chaos!

There is never a dull moment in the house and when there is, it either means the kids are away or silently tearing some shit up! Haha! My family is everything to me but man does life get hard to handle sometimes, and many of those times I nor my husband have any answers on how to tame the chaos but we do our best to make it through.

I hate that I stayed away from my blog for so long and neglected my writing but to be honest this mama has been completely exhausted! Transitioning to my new job title and dealing with everyday struggles has been overwhelming and once I get home all I want to do is fall asleep on the couch. Believe me when I say I dread those days the most! However, my children make sure that whatever strength and energy I have left is spent all on them and I don’t blame them not one bit. They help me to remember to just be thankful throughout the struggles of life and for that alone I am grateful for their compassion and unconditional love!

Yeah, I know being positive and spreading positivity is a great thing but there are so many times that I am a complete wreck and mess yet I don’t share those post because I am afraid of what people may think. I am afraid to show that I am human and I know that that defeats the whole point and purpose of my blog. However, I am tired of hiding behind positivity because let’s be real, life is beautiful but it is also hard and very difficult at times. The thing I find funny about the choas and finally letting people know about the struggles is that so many people just want to hug you and let it be known that you are not the only one! We are all struggling in some kind of way and that is ok because life damn sure doesn’t come with an instruction manual and we are all doing our best to “figure it out”.

This year I am all about finding the right balance that I need to keep pushing. I am on a mission to find my focus in life and the one thing I don’t want to continue to do is give all my energy to someone else’s dream and in return neglect my craft because I’m “too tired” to follow my own. I just want to be great and I want my family to be great but first I need to embrace the choas with the positive in life so that I am able to cherish it all. I am a work in progress just trying embrace my growth while also learning from my setbacks. Tell me you can relate!

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5 Reasons why family dinner is important for my large family

5 Reasons why family dinner is important for my large family

Family Dinner? Let’s talk!

Hello Everyone! What a beautiful fall day it is!

Fall, Trees

I hope everyone is enjoying it in a way that keeps them smiling throughout the day 🙂

In the spirit of the holidays, there has been a lot of discussion amongst my coworkers and I about the upcoming family gatherings. The loud screaming at the t.v. from the favorite uncle in the living room because his team is losing or because he needs another beverage. Many can’t wait to have those long overdue conversations and spend that much-needed time with family members from afar. While others are thinking about how excited they are to cook their favorite recipes for those big family dinners!

Understanding that the holidays are the main times during the year that families eat together, it got me wondering whether or not families make time during the week to have family dinner. Now when I say family dinner, I mean sitting around the table (without electronics and other distractions) and just having the best company of all, the company of each other! Having a good old-fashioned family dinner throughout the week is one of our favorite things to do in our household!

However, after bringing up the topic, I realized that not many make time for the lost tradition of family dinner. And for some, family dinner has become a cycle of making a plate of food and going to sit and dine with the phone, laptop, or television screen. 

With work, school, projects, and after school activities, Yes! I know that life gets in the way. Of course, those same everyday things keep us from being able to have that special time together as well but that’s ok. With a family of seven, life definitely gets crazy, but we adjust and make up for it. The fact that we are a large family, we make it our business to have family dinner at least 3 to 4x out of the week. It helps keep us connected and in the know of what’s going on with each other. It also gives me the opportunity to just stare at each face and just take in their beauty and growth!

 

Sit Down & Let’s Eat

I asked each of my children if they thought our family dinners were important and what were some of their favorite things about them. Here were some of their responses:

1. Time to Talk

So during each family dinner, we take turns going around the table giving everyone their own opportunity first to discuss their day then to discuss any issues they may be dealing with and need advice on. Especially with four daughters in the house, someone is bound to want some advice even if it’s only about a new nail color, Lol! Each of them were in agreement on this one because they anticipate hearing more about each other’s day! I love to believe that taking this time to open up and express our feelings amongst each other helps to strengthen our foundation as a family through communication.

2. The Company of Each Other

Having 5 kids in the house makes for nonstop adventure! Something is always going on and not everyone is always being nice to each other either lol But having each other’s company at the dinner table seems like perfection even if only till dinner is over. For the most part though, they love being around each other and it definitely shows during dinner time. This has to be one of my favorite of the choices because they are all growing up so fast and sometimes you need that minute as a parent to just sit still and take in their beauty, growth, and togetherness!

3. The Food

While we are just a family that loves to cook, our children rave about mom and dad’s food as if each dish is competition worthy! I still hear about the time I made them cornbread muffins (and burnt them by accident), yet my daughter swears up and down that they were some of the best cornbread muffins she ever had! LOL! You just gotta love their support! They love trying new meals and even cook dinner some nights. In honor of one of their favorite food shows “Chopped”, each night they have us “present” their dinner to them so that they can judge our meals. Yup! Young food critics in the making!

4. Food Buddies

Reason #4 is straight from the youngest and toughest of the KIZNY squad, 6-year-old Yumi! For her, family dinner is her favorite because she loves to have a food buddy. A food buddy is a sibling or parent (preferably a parent, Lol) that will sit with her and eat while making sure that her belly is getting full. Yup! You read that correctly! She loves to watch her belly as she eats and I think it is adorable and definitely worthy of making the list!

5. Responsibility

Yes! You read that word correctly! My 12-year-old Lizzy is the “mom” of the squad and prefers to take on responsibility. She likes how her father and I tries to rotate the responsibilities amongst them because it teaches them how to keep different areas of the house clean. The responsibilities that come with family dinner is almost like routine for them now. From setting the table, sweeping up after dinner, and even washing the dishes, each of us take part in the family dinner aftermath to teach them what it means to be a team. It feels good to do these tasks together and adding some loud music doesn’t hurt at all either!

Keeping Traditions Alive

So can you tell my family and I are big fans of family dinner? It’s just one of those things that we try to hold on to because it has great benefits for the entire family! If family dinner is something that you’ve always enjoyed but haven’t had one in a while just randomly pick a day and stick to it. Ban all electronics and outside distractions from the table, sit, and enjoy the meal and company around you!

So even if family dinner isn’t your thing that’s fine! Drop a comment below and let me know what traditions you and your family continue to hold on too. Because at the end of the day it’s all about making real-time for those you love and being able to put everything aside and focus on each other.

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